Raising, Learning from a Teen with Autism

Research has shown that music significantly supports children's cognitive development while also addressing behavioral challenges.

Our teen was diagnosed with ADHD and ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) at the age of 14. For quite some time, we explored various management and therapy options. Guided by doctors and therapists, he was prescribed several medications and participated in cognitive behavioral therapy sessions. Those years were challenging not only for him but for our entire family.

So what actually helps children with special needs?

What makes their environment feel safe?

How involved should we be to ensure they feel supported but not overwhelmed?

For children with special needs, there is no single solution to behavioral or learning challenges. It takes a great deal of trial and error before discovering what truly works.

Here are some of the practices that are currently working for us:

ROUTINES

Routines play a crucial role in reshaping how we think and structure our days. When our teen with autism knows what his day will look like, he feels safer and more in control. His routines are designed around his interests and include practical skills that support both academic success and daily functioning.

But why do some routines fail to work? The secret lies in CONSISTENCY. Routines need to be clearly written down (see picture below) and practiced daily to see meaningful results over time.

DESIGNING ACTIVITIES that PROMOTE NEURAL PATHWAYS

Activities should be purposeful, so the child never feels like they’re doing something just for the sake of it. When there’s a clear purpose, they experience a sense of progress and success over time.

With guidance from a therapist or educator, parents can prioritize activities that stimulate the body and promote communication between the two sides of the brain. These include bilateral coordination and midline-crossing activities—important precursors to other tasks. (More on this in an upcoming post...)

Here’s an example of how we plan our teen’s day:

Since he enjoys music, voice and guitar practice are always prioritized. Other functional skills are integrated into his schedule so he can contribute to household responsibilities as well.

Because of consistency, his skills are progressing steadily—at his own pace.

PRESENCE of a SUPPORT SYSTEM

Behind every successful routine or activity is a support system. The effectiveness of any intervention depends on how we supervise and provide feedback. Adults must make time and show genuine interest in the child's progress. When we are present, children feel valued—not just for what they do, but for who they are.

Enrolling a child in an activity is only the beginning. Support must continue beyond that. Even if we know nothing about their interests, we can still encourage them, praise their efforts, and appreciate the unique beauty of their work.

Sit down and have a chat with your child—you might be surprised by what you discover.

And this is what PROGRESS is...